Private Coaching With Bern & How We Do This Together.

These Are Just a Few of the Women Who Met the Love of Their Life After Working With Me. Are You Next?

Love is Not Just a Feeling. It's a Skill and You Can Learn it...

No matter how long I’ve been guiding women to love themselves fiercely, and to attract men who love them devotionally as a natural byproduct of that love…

There are few feelings in life that compare to seeing the light come back into a woman’s eyes when she finally reclaims who she truly is.

You can see it in the way she moves through the world, in the natural radiance shining through her eyes, and in how she voices her needs with a rare combination of kindness and firmness.

If I had to define my work in a single sentence, it would be this:

I help smart women attract conscious, devotionally committed partners in record time, by guiding them to become the most radiant, authentic, and emotionally grounded version of themselves.

Together, we quickly identify the real root cause of what’s been holding them back, and then move through it with courage and confidence using my signature approach, “The 5% Principle.”

“I had never experienced falling more and more genuinely in love, even liking someone more and more the more I got to know them”

-Kaitlin Vadla.

Why Focusing on Just 5% Can Attract The Relationship You've Always Wanted.

The 5% Principle comes from a powerful realization: a very small number of decisions, actions, patterns, and relationships, around five percent at most, create almost all the joy or frustration you experience in your life.

My role as your mentor and coach is to help you consistently focus on this critical 5%. Every week, we’ll work together, leaning on my experience, intuition, and practical guidance to help you shift the specific patterns and habits that make the biggest difference.

This personalized, practical approach is exactly why so many women who’ve genuinely invested effort and energy in the past, but haven’t found lasting results. finally experience the relationships they’ve always hoped for.

I feel that I can express myself, and he loves it. Before him, I couldn’t do it because I felt that that it was damaging for the relationship, but now I fully express myself and feel loved and respected. It’s amazing.”

-Pame Quezada.

Wondering What Working Together Really Means?

First off, it means not having to reinvent the wheel—or rediscover fire. 😉

It means having someone at your side who’s already guided hundreds of women into relationships more meaningful than they ever thought possible, relationships they naturally attracted as a result of fully expressing themselves.

My coaching philosophy is deeply personal and intentionally intimate.

I work closely with only a small group of women at a time, ensuring you receive my fullest attention and the most impactful guidance I’ve developed over the years.

Getting Started...

We start with a simple, honest conversation, just you and me, where I’ll ask a few thoughtful questions to understand what’s really holding you back.

If I feel confident I can help (and usually I can), and you feel inspired by the plan we map out together, that’s when our journey begins.

Our work unfolds within a thoughtfully curated, intimate setting:

You’ll become part of a small, close-knit group—never more than 4–8 women—where we’ll meet weekly over video for two months, in a safe, supportive space.

In each session, I’ll speak directly with every woman, one at a time—celebrating your breakthroughs, working through your specific challenges, and consistently helping you focus on those critical “5% shifts” that create real, lasting change.

I always thought, I’ll never have a second chance at true love, because I’m too old or whatever. But now, it’s way better. Because we don’t have all the hangups and the drama…I feel like I’m just beginning!”

-Michele Hinkle. (65)

A Sisterhood of Women Who Truly See You.

One of the most powerful parts of this experience, beyond the personalized coaching you’ll receive from me, is joining an intimate circle of insightful, courageous, and supportive women. Women who quickly become your “sisters in growth.”

You’ll soon realize something special about this group: they’ll voice the questions you’ve carried silently inside your heart, articulate feelings you’ve struggled to express, and share experiences that profoundly shift your perspective.

Witnessing another courageous woman’s journey can spark breakthroughs you never anticipated, and illuminate blind spots you didn’t even know were there.

Their courage becomes your courage, and their victories your inspiration.

You’ll leave each call not just clearer about your next steps, but uplifted by a genuine sisterhood, women who celebrate you, champion you, and remind you that you’re never alone on this path.

More Than Just Coaching—Get Personal Guidance From Me—Right When You Need It Most.

Another reason my clients get results so quickly is that they have direct access to me between our weekly calls:

If you’re feeling stuck on an assignment, get a confusing text from someone you’re dating, or simply need a confidence boost before an important date, you’re never on your own. You can message me directly, through text, voice memo, or even video—and I’ll personally respond by the next business day at the latest (same day if possible).

It’s like having me right beside you, exactly when you need support the most.

This blend of intimate group coaching and direct one-on-one private access creates something special.

You get personalized clarity exactly when you need it, while being inspired and uplifted by other courageous women on the same journey. It’s a unique combination you won’t easily find anywhere else.

I’ve never loved anybody more than him— I can’t even tell you. We’re definitely talking about marriage… He already tells everybody, ‘She’s my wife,’ because this is where we are, this is who we are.”

-Paola Arbour.

Personal Video Library To Guide You Between Sessions.

You’ll also get full access to my private coaching video library—a special collection I created exclusively for my clients. I designed these videos to go deeper and more personal than anything I share publicly, offering you direct insights and practical steps to shift the patterns holding you back and build stronger relationship skills.

Each video comes paired with actionable challenges and reflective exercises specifically designed to accelerate your progress between our calls.

Whether it’s a quick boost of insight or an in-depth session on boundaries, confidence, or emotional attunement, these resources ensure you always have the exact support you need, right when you need it most.

Stay Strong and Supported—After the Initial 2-Month Intensive.

After our two-month intensive, we’ll pause and reflect together. We’ll look at how far you’ve come and explore what’s next. At this point, you might feel clear and empowered to continue forward on your own—or, if you’re inspired to go deeper, we’ll have the option to extend our journey for another six months.

Choosing to continue gives you the space to strengthen new skills, navigate richer and more nuanced relationship challenges, and receive ongoing, personalized support as your new relationship unfolds. It’s always about what’s most supportive for you, helping you confidently sustain and build upon the powerful shifts you’ve already experienced.

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