Spend 3 Days With Me in the Breathtaking Mountain Views of Southern California
Leave with the Clarity and Skills to Attract Your Devotional, Intimate Partner in 2025
In over 14 years of helping women all around the world attract devoted men and enter deeply fulfilling relationships, I’ve come to one profound realization:
When it comes to making a lasting change in a meaningful and accelerated way, nothing compares to the depth and impact of an intentionally crafted, in-person experience.
Vulnerable, inspiring, raw, and filled with moments of being deeply seen and supported.
There’s something undeniably sacred about a small group of humans coming together, creating space for a profound shift in awareness, skills, and relationship possibilities—unlocking doors that once seemed out of reach.
With This Awareness…
I’ve designed an intimate, one-of-a-kind experience for six exceptional women, where the mountains, the serene landscape, the warmth of home, and nourishing food are all woven intentionally into their transformation.
IMAGINE...
Feeling the quiet energy of a sunrise walk as your steps trace the paths of a stone labyrinth—a replica of the one at Chartres Cathedral…
A labor of love, hand-built by a devoted husband for his wife after she fell in love with it during their travels through France.
You then dip into a hot spa where the only thing separating you from the majestic mountains is the line that the negative edge pool creates into the horizon.
If you’re feeling bold, the cold plunge will invigorate your body and awaken your spirit and mind for the day of transformation ahead.
After a light, nourishing breakfast, you step into the main room—where the guided transformation begins.
With my support… you’ll gently release what no longer serves you and embrace new resources, skills, and understanding that can significantly speed up your path to finding your ideal partner, while changing how you experience this whole journey.
The Most Rewarding Part...
Over these three transformative days, you’ll learn to embody confidence and authenticity from the inside out, gaining a deeper understanding of yourself and a clearer sense of direction—even before meeting the right guy.
Having Done This Before…
I predict we’ll laugh, cry, gain new perspectives, and uncover the exact paths to create an experience you’ll carry with you for a lifetime…
Strangers will become friends and sisters, offering support and witnessing you without judgment. We’ll create the space you need to finally make the shifts that will bring you the relationship you’ve always wanted but felt was out of reach.
“He brings me a lot of joy. He’s great at bringing me back from the brink when I’m really wound up. We can talk about our faith; we can talk about other things really deeply and meaningfully…
In addition to this relationship, this work has really helped so much with my relationship with my kids and setting boundaries. Thanks for playing a huge role in helping me transform into the person I am today.”
In Three Transformational Days, You’ll…
Reconnect with Your Most Attractive Essence
You’ll feel how liberating it is to tap into the energy that makes you feel alive, confident, and naturally magnetic.
This is the radiant vibe every conscious man quietly seeks and craves, even if he cannot articulate it with words.
You’ll sense how tapping into this life force (intentionally) puts you entirely in charge of your most attractive, radiant, and feminine self…and creates many more choices in men.
Align With Your Inner Relationship Compass
You’ll feel how liberating it is to tap into the
You’ll uncover a deep sense of purpose and gain the courage to dream a more inspiring relationship vision than you ever have.
This won’t be based on hope or a naive wish but on the clarity and skills you’ll develop.
I’ve realized that most people don’t achieve the intimacy they crave because they try to find the “how” without developing a compelling “why.”
You’ll become a living testament to the fact that finding your emotionally bold, purposeful, and slightly scary “why” is crucial to attracting your ideal partner.
“Life is either a daring adventure…or nothing.”
Identify Your Authentic Attraction Blind Spot
As you align with a more genuine version of yourself, I’ll help you compassionately uncover your core blind spot…
…your metaphorical ‘smudge on the windshield’—the one that’s caused you to ‘squint and constantly readjust’ when navigating interactions with men.
And here’s the truth…once we wipe that blind spot ‘windshield’ clean, you’ll realize how everything comes into focus, and the path to your ideal relationship becomes smoother, clearer, and much more enjoyable.
Let Go of Self-Blame, Unconscious Shame and Guilt
Discover Your True Value in Intimacy.
You’ll start to release the hidden weight of self-blame and guilt and replace them with a clear understanding of how your unique strengths and high value can naturally shine in dating and relationships.
With gentle guidance, I’ll help you let go of self-judgment with a level of compassion you may have never experienced before.
Attune To Yourself & Your Authentic Needs
We’ll explore a simple but life-changing set of tools designed to help you deeply understand what’s happening inside you at any moment, in your heart, body, and mind.
This is the crucial step most humans miss…
By learning it, you’ll lay the groundwork for confidently expressing your authentic needs to a partner and, finally, making it possible for those needs to be understood and met.
Attune to Men
As you cultivate a practice of attunement to yourself, I’ll guide you in learning to tune in to a conscious man in real life…
This skill shifts a healthy man’s interest from casual to committed. It makes him feel drawn to you in a consistent, genuine way that is deeply invested in building something real with you.
You’ll also understand what purpose-driven men genuinely want and need from a woman and how to become their most inspiring option by embracing your unique, authentic, and beautifully imperfect self.
This practice will help you deepen any connection naturally without pushing, manipulating, or relying on scripted responses or techniques.
Face Intimacy Storms with Strength
You’ll know how to navigate moments of doubt, fear, and emotional turbulence with men with confidence, staying rooted in your truth and resilience even when intimacy feels uncertain.
What happens when anxiety, attachment wounds, triggers, or insecurities inevitably try to creep back in?
When you need to speak your truth but feel frozen…
When his words or actions leave you feeling hurt and unsure of yourself…
You’ll learn a specific, practical process for regulating your emotions and regaining balance, even if you feel overwhelmed.
This set of tools will help you face fears of rejection, vulnerability, or shame head-on, allowing you to protect and nurture the connection you’ve worked so hard to create.
Simplify Your Partner Checklist
By the end of this process, you’ll understand precisely what truly matters in a partner for you and what doesn’t.
This depth of clarity can make the difference between finding your ideal relationship in 2025 or continuing to search for years without success.
Claim Your Next Chapter
You’ll leave this retreat with renewed confidence and a clear, actionable plan that includes daily rituals and practical skills.
After this experience, creating and sustaining the relationship you’ve been dreaming of will no longer feel like a distant hope—it will feel like an inevitable reality.
“I didn’t know that men like him existed…”
“Before this work, I didn’t believe that men like him existed. I really didn’t.
He is the most amazing combination of a man in the best possible sense of the world. We just celebrated a year together and have kept continuing to grow into how we build a life with each other. It feels like a fantasy, but it’s very, very real.”
THIS IS IDEAL FOR YOU IF...
You’re ready for a significant breakthrough in your love life in days, not years, embracing a holistic approach that combines intuitive insights with advanced psychological and neuroscience principles.
You value the power of shared experiences in a small, intimate group and understand that being open and vulnerable can amplify your transformation.
You’re flexible and trust that Bern may adapt the content to meet both your needs and the group’s, focusing on outcomes rather than a rigid plan.
You’re eager to try new approaches, even if they challenge your current mindset, and are committed to respecting and supporting the diverse experiences of other women in the group.
You’re open to the idea that an intensive event of this nature can create a massive shift in your understanding, appreciation, and long-term experience of yourself and men.
THIS IS NOT IDEAL FOR YOU IF...
You’re very uncomfortable with the idea of sharing and connecting in a small, intimate group setting.
You’re highly skeptical that meaningful change can happen in a short, immersive experience focused on deep, intentional work.
You prioritize finding quick-fix strategies or “hacks” over exploring and addressing the deeper emotional patterns shaping your relationships.
I’d never experienced falling more and more genuinely in love, even liking someone more and more the more I got to know them. I kept telling myself that I didn’t know what I wanted out of life – when, in fact, I did.
You helped me recognize what I already wanted for myself and be clear about it. “I’ve worked with many excellent mentors, counselors, and therapists, but you have such a unique gift. I’ve never experienced as rapid a transformation as when I worked with you.
WHAT'S INCLUDED?
A three-night stay in a private suite (with a king-size bed & private bathroom) at the stunning Refugio del Amor Mansion in Fallbrook, CA.
(The town of Fallbrook is about 45-60 minutes north of The San Diego International Airport, nestled quietly between Rainbow, Oceanside and Bonsal).
WELCOME DINNER
Once you’ve arrived, decompressed and settled in, you’ll join Bern and his life-partner Melissa (along with the six intentionally chosen women who you’ll be sharing El Refugio, and this experience, with).
Melissa will gladly care for any dietary needs for any allergies, religious observance, or other lifestyle requirements. You’ll have connected prior to arriving after securing your spot, and she’ll get to know your needs more intimately then.
NOURISHING SNACKS & MEALS
With a spectacular (and stocked) kitchen available to you at all times, you’ll have as many nourishing snacks as you require. For breakfast, lunch and dinner you will be provided for, and we will enjoy caring for whatever dietary needs you, specifically, have.
- On your last day, March 2nd, we will end with a lunch so that everyone can make it home before starting the new week.
INTENSIVE COACHING WITH BERN
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MEDITATION & BREATHWORK WITH MELISSA
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PROCESSING TIME & SPACE
Once you’ve arrived, decompressed and settled in, you’ll join Bern and his life-partner Melissa (along with the six intentionally chosen women who you’ll be sharing El Refugio, and this experience, with). Melissa will gladly care for any dietary needs for any allergies, religious observance, or other lifestyle requirements. You’ll have connected prior to arriving after securing your spot, and she’ll get to know your needs more intimately then.
ADDRESSING YOUR SPECIFIC CHALLENGES & UNIQUE NEEDS
Once you’ve arrived, decompressed and settled in, you’ll join Bern and his life-partner Melissa (along with the six intentionally chosen women who you’ll be sharing El Refugio, and this experience, with). Melissa will gladly care for any dietary needs for any allergies, religious observance, or other lifestyle requirements. You’ll have connected prior to arriving after securing your spot, and she’ll get to know your needs more intimately then.
ATTUNED DATING PRACTICES
Once you’ve arrived, decompressed and settled in, you’ll join Bern and his life-partner Melissa (along with the six intentionally chosen women who you’ll be sharing El Refugio, and this experience, with). Melissa will gladly care for any dietary needs for any allergies, religious observance, or other lifestyle requirements. You’ll have connected prior to arriving after securing your spot, and she’ll get to know your needs more intimately then.
COLD PLUNGE, SAUNA, HOT SPA
Take the waterslide if you’re feeling like the extra rush of adrenaline before you plunge into cold water. You’ll have the hot redwood sauna, and the hot tub, waiting for you, and the rush you’ll feel cycling through this each morning is quite something.
WELLNESS STUDIO & GYM
Available to you anytime, the welless studio overlooks miles of beautiful countryside before you see the sparkling ocean on a clear day (yes, that’s right, even 20 miles inland!)
PRIVATE SUITES
With extra high ceilings, large rooms with private bathrooms and terraces, or covered patios & balconys, and each with spectacular views, everyone will have plenty of space. The kingsize beds are extra comfortable and cozy for a restful night’s sleep.
BREATHTAKING & AWE INSPIRING VIEWS
The Value of Intensive Results
We’ve seen that many women spend years and significant resources on therapy, matchmaking, or other coaching methods that skim the surface but fail to tackle the deeper, core challenges in their relationships.
This retreat is a uniquely focused, three-day immersion designed to deliver profound clarity and transformation—set against a backdrop that inspires you every step of the way.
BONUS
A personalized 75-minute one-on-one video call with Bern before the retreat designed to lay the foundation for your transformation.
During this session, we’ll uncover your unique challenges, clarify your goals, and start tailoring the experience to your needs, ensuring you’re fully prepared to dive in from the first moment of the retreat.
This call is your opportunity to feel seen, heard, and equipped, setting the stage for a truly transformative experience.
(A recording of the session can be provided upon request.)
INVESTMENT
This retreat goes far beyond relaxation and scenery—it’s an investment in yourself, offering practical tools and profound insights to transform how you navigate intimacy and relationships, creating an impact that will continue to shape your life long after the experience.
If you’re invited to join after our call and choose to accept, a $2,500 deposit will secure your spot, with the remaining $2,500 due within 30 days.
Exclusive Bonus Opportunity:
If you prefer to pay the full $5,000 by December 31st, you’ll receive a special bonus: a 90-minute one-on-one integration video call with Bern after the retreat to deepen and sustain your transformation.
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APPLICATION
Due to this work’s intimate and highly personalized nature, this retreat is by application only.
Our priority is curating a group of women whose situations and energy align, ensuring the experience is meaningful and supportive for everyone involved.
With only six spots available, we encourage you to apply now if this resonates with you—even if you’re feeling a little nervous or have questions.
Applying is completely free, and if your application is accepted, we’ll schedule a no-pressure call to explore if this makes sense for both of us.
Frequently Asked Questions
I’ve tried other dating programs or therapy. How is this different?
Bern’s unique approach has consistently helped women of all ages, walks of life, and love challenges transform their relationships and how they see themselves, creating lasting change from the inside out.
This retreat blends intuitive, actionable guidance with practical exercises, psychological principles, and neuroscience, all in an immersive, in-person setting—delivering a level of transformation that’s difficult to achieve in other formats.
What’s the application process like?
It’s straightforward and pressure-free.
After submitting your application, you’ll be contacted to schedule a short call with Bern.
This call is an opportunity to discuss your goals, ask questions, and ensure the retreat is right for both of you. If invited, you can secure your spot with a deposit.
Do I need to be physically fit to participate?
The retreat focuses mainly on emotional and psychological transformation, making it accessible to all fitness levels.
Activities like labyrinth walks, plunge pools, and spa use are optional.
What is the schedule like?
You’ll arrive at The Refugio Mansion after 2 pm PST on Thursday, February 27th.
You can settle into your suite, grab a snack, relax on the property, and prepare for dinner that night.
Bern will have a welcome session with everyone that evening, and then he and Melissa will have dinner with you and the other ladies.
Friday and Saturday will be full coaching days, including breathwork, guided sessions, and time to integrate and work independently on specific exercises Bern provides.
We will serve a nourishing breakfast, lunch, and dinner (and snacks) on those two days.
After breakfast on Sunday, there will be an integration session and a goodbye lunch with Bern, Melissa, and the other women.
Lunch will end at 1:00 p.m. PST, giving you enough time to travel back to San Diego and fly home that night if you choose to.
How do I get to Refugio?
The Refugio Mansion is 45-60 minutes from The San Diego International Airport. You can take an Uber or Lyft from there or rent a car.
What if I have dietary restrictions?
Meals are prepared with care, and we can accommodate most dietary needs (E.g., Celiac, Gluten-Free, Vegan, and Kosher) with prior notice.
What if I need to cancel after securing my spot?
Due to the highly personalized nature of the retreat and the minimal number of spots available, refunds are limited. However, if unforeseen circumstances arise, we’re happy to help you find an alternative coaching option with Bern.
What Are The Women Like Who Will Also Be Attending?
Women who have built successful, fulfilling lives in many ways but feel ready to shift their focus toward emotional intimacy, love, and connection.
They’re thoughtful, open to growth, and willing to explore new perspectives to create the relationship they’ve always wanted.
This retreat is for women who want to approach their love lives with intention and authenticity with the least possible resistance.
Will Bern stay at The Refugio Mansion?
Bern and Melissa will stay in a separate house on the premises, giving you the privacy and space necessary to integrate and fully enjoy your experience.
When will you be doing this again?
Bern doesn’t have any current plans to do another retreat in 2025.